Sharing memories throughout the generations at our 2024 MSC Light Up a Memory Mass

Dec 5, 2024

On Saturday, November 23^rd, we brought the Month of the Holy Souls to a close with a beautiful candlelight memorial in tribute to loved ones who have gone before us at our annual Light Up a Memory Mass. This year marked the tenth anniversary of what has become a much-loved and highly anticipated tradition each year, and once again we lit up the Sacred Heart Church on the Western Road, Cork, with the flame of remembrance and the everlasting warmth of treasured memories.

November weather was out in full force with stormy conditions all round, but that did not deter local mission friends and parishioners from joining us at the Sacred Heart Church for a truly special evening of music, reflection, and prayer in honour of loved ones who have gone before us in the Lord’s eternal embrace. Almost 900 people also joined us via our live stream to remember and pray with us, from Ireland, the UK, and Europe, to Canada, the United States, and the Philippines.

An evening of love and goodwill

Fr John Fitzgerald, director of the MSC Missions Office, celebrated this year’s Mass with Fr Con Doherty and Fr Seamus Kelly, and opened this year’s ceremony by speaking of what the annual Light Up a Memory ceremony means. “We in the Missions Office next door to this church, where we communicate with so many benefactors, so many helpers, so many people who keep our missions going… where we try to look after as many projects as we can in different places… we make a promise, every year, that apart from having the Novena to the Holy Souls, as you’d find in most churches, we promised that we would always have a ceremony towards the end of the November, a Light Up a Memory Mass for your dead, for my dead, and for the dead who have no-one to remember them at all.”

“When I looked here about 15 minutes ago, there was hardly anyone in the church really, a few stragglers getting to know each other,” said Fr John. “Then a nice crowd arrived, considering that here in Cork tonight, just to let the whole world know, that it is something like 15 degrees, so it is very warm, but we’re in the middle of a storm that’s going to finish tomorrow so it’s not a night really for the faint-hearted! I congratulate the people who have made their way here tonight, it is great, but I am also very aware of so many people tonight who are at home and listening to us, not only from Cork, but from all over the place.”

As the Mass progressed and the candles were brought to the altar, Fr John once again remembered those joining us in spirit from home, saying, “I am also very much aware of yourselves at home… I know you wish you could have brought your own candle tonight, but we have plenty of love to go around for you, we have plenty of goodwill, because we know what it is.”

A language of the heart

Reflecting on loss and grief, Fr John spoke of the language of the heart – the mourners who tell us they are heartbroken, the sympathisers who say that their heart goes out to the bereaved, those who come to a funeral with heavy hearts. “We should not take that sort of language for granted,” reflected Fr John. “It is a sort of an explanation of what has happened, or that description of a feeling. Heart language is a beautiful way of speaking to grief, to loss, to love, and to pay sympathy to somebody else… It is a language to do with a healing of the heart, the love of the heart and the heart of Christ, and it is a language of hope. Heart language is a language of hope. So here in the Sacred Heart Church tonight, on this big night for us who promised we would pray for the dead, we believe in the power of the risen Christ and the promise of the hereafter – we believe in that. And we believe in the language of the heart when we deal with loss, with grief, with healing, and with joy as well when we try to move on.”

“We are invited to be a people of hope.”

In a lovely personal moment, Fr John shared the importance of also being able to move on and look ahead in life, even as we carry the love and sorrow of loss that never fades away. “My father is dead for many years,” he explained, “and there was a family friend one time, I was giving her a drive, and when I had my hand up on the gear lever, she said to me – ‘Oh,’ she said, ‘you have freckles on your hand like your father.’ She said, ‘I remember his hands, he had freckles on his hands, and he had a scar on his finger’ – which he had. And I then kind of funnily said, ‘Well, I have a scar on my thumb.’ And she said, ‘Yes, well we all have to carry our own freckles and our own scars.’ So, there is this kind of a movement, that while I was thrilled that I had a scar like my father, she was saying, well you have to get on with your own troubles and your own freckled life – so, you know we have that little thought as we move out of here tonight.”

This year’s Mass once again featured a wonderful musical accompaniment from Gerry and Deirdre Tuohy, while Fr John’s homily incorporated a selection of poems and prayers, each one a fitting reminder of the power of grief, of faith, and of love everlasting as he prayed for those we have loved and lost, and for those who have nobody to remember them at all.

Bringing the ceremony to an end, Fr John prayed for protection, grace, and hope on this sacred night: “We are not far from the Kingdom of Heaven itself, and we are here very close to it in the kingdom of this world. So, we are invited to be a people of hope, a people who listen to the voice of God, and a people who can be assured that our dead are in the hands of God.”

We would like to extend our heartfelt thanks to all who took part in this year’s Light Up a Memory celebrations, in the Sacred Heart Church and beyond. All of us, and one point or another, in one form or another, have been touched by grief, and our annual Light Up a Memory Mass is always a very poignant and moving way for us to commemorate treasured memories of those we hold dear, while praying for healing and hope in our hearts as we navigate life without them, carrying memories and generations of love and remembrance down throughout the years. Sincere thanks to all who took part in this truly special evening of prayer, reflection, and fond remembrance on the tenth anniversary of this very special ceremony – may God bless you all.

Please click here to watch a recording of our 2024 Light Up a Memory Mass.